I get it. I am not the only person who is upset about Fifty Shades of Grey hitting the big screen. Let me tell you why. It will be short, I promise.
To start, here are a few direct quotes from the books: "No" I protest, trying to kick him off. He stops. "If you struggle, I'll take your feet too. If you make a noise, Anastasia, I will gag you." "He'd probably like to beat seven shades of shit out of me. The thought is depressing." "No please. I can't do this, not now. I need some time. Please." "Oh, Ana, don't other think this." Can I tell you something? I work with a few men who are much like Christian Grey, and therefore, I work with a few women who are much like Anastasia. Hearing personal accounts form the real Anastasias of this world is absolutely devastating. There is nothing romantic about living with someone who is possessive, demanding, jealous, torturing, manipulative, controlling, intimidating, threatening, isolating, or someone who is a stalker and a rapist. It is so important for me to acknowledge that both the Christians and the Anastasias I work with are a result of family cycles and broken systems. Both have experienced horrific trauma that likely inform most of their decisions. And here is where I firmly believe that we get to bridge the gap if we are willing. We need to stop distancing ourselves from the reality of rape culture that is ever so present in our society. We need to feel the gravity and impact of our decisions, including seeing movies that perpetuate violence and abuse. Education yourself and speak out on what you find. Get involved. Walk with the those who batter and those who are battered. Hear their stories and speak life and truth. This post could go on and on. I encourage my friends who are followers of Christ to explore the topic further. It is important for us in different ways. But for now: Throw your books away. Use the $10 you would spend to see the movie in theaters on reforming cycles and systems.
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Jess LaMer
2/11/2015 10:42:34 am
thank you, haley. thank you.
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