About a week ago, a friend and fellow blogger wrote this entry. She told her social network that she signed up for a marathon. She said, "I don't want to post on my blog that I'm doing this grand ole thing, and then not do it."
Brave right? I love when people use social media to share their stories and ask for accountability. There is something I want to do and I don't want to fail. So to my social network, here's the New Year's Resolution I don't want to share: In 2015, I don't want to use my phone to take a single picture. I have been thinking about my New Year's Resolution for about two months now. It started when I took Bahsogay to mall to play in the treehouse, and I promise you every single parent was on their phone, capturing the perfect moment, having their kid go down the slide again because they missed the smile, literally bumping into other kids while they were walking around with their nose in their phone, working, or disengaging. It made me furious, and then I realized I am a hypocrite. I have verbalized my resolution to a few people, mostly family. It feels silly to tell people. Like what's the big deal, they are just pictures? and everyone is doing it, all the time. But, for me, right now it feels like a problem. Every moment of my life is captured by my iPhone, stored in my photo stream and displayed on Instagram or other forms of social media. I'd be lying if I said there wasn't some sort of "insta" gratification and encouragement that comes from social media. I'd be majorly lying because it has become something that interferes with my ability to truly live and be present with the people I truly love. Riding in the passenger seat while Austin is driving? Social media. The sweet form of encouragement from a friend? Social media. I got a puppy? Social media. Uncomfortable on public transit? Social media. I am scared I'm missing the point. When I look back at big moments in my life, I don't want to remember taking the picture 23 times to find the right angle that doesn't make me look fat, or finding the perfect filter, or making sure all of my friends approved by "liking it." I don't want to miss real people, and real conversations, and real opportunities, and real moments. I want to like my own life, and I do, but more than liking it, I want to feel it, and love it. I want to have photo albums (yes they still exist) on my shelves for my kids to look at it. I want to remember feelings, tastes, sounds, sights, and use my words to describe them to people. I want to remember how life actually occurred, not just how I wanted it to look. I want to write a better story. One that could care less how many "likes it got." To be bold, maybe we are called to lives that maybe wouldn't get very many likes. A few quotes that inspired this resolution are: "I guess our parents stayed together simply because they didn't have 7,000 other people following them at their disposal when their relationship or marriage got hard. Nowadays, when our relationships get hard, we can just log on and get high off this false sense of security, appreciate, and understanding. We value our worst based on followers, comments and inbox messages filled with colorful words that have no depth. Meanwhile the person who loves you when there is no filter on your face because an option and attractively filtered followers become priority. Don't lose what is real chasing what only appears to be." 'How can you ever be alone if thousands of “friends” are also in your pocket? We’ve traded silence and reflection for a "feed" of endless noise, custom filtered to our preferences.Beyond anything, it has made us forget how to actually be present. The digital revolution has empowered constant distraction that allows us to forget about what we are doing at the moment, and instead see images of what we have done, look at what others are doing or plan what we are going to do next.This is a spiritual crisis. One of the underlying things we learn about the nature of God in the Bible is that He does not mind waiting. He seeks stillness. After creating the universe, God Himself simply remained still and reflected on His work for an entire day. He loves being present so much so that the essence of His Holy Spirit, is presence." "Because we live in a culture that normalizes the pursuit of appearances, possessions, and selfish gain, feelings of awkwardness and shame surface when we do not measure up in these areas. We get embarrassed that our clothes are last year’s fashion, that our vehicle costs less than the neighbor’s, or that our house is smaller than our guest’s. We apologize for the worn carpet, make excuses for the outdated kitchen, or point out specifically why we haven’t updated the countertops yet. Because those pursuits and values have become normalized, we are prone to feel embarrassment over them—even if there is nothing wrong with the things we already have. This experience (or fear) of embarrassment fuels our urge to own more.But what would happen if we stopped getting embarrassed over the wrong things and started pursuing the right things? What if, instead of being embarrassed over the brand of our clothing, we became embarrassed over the size of our walk-in closet? What if, instead of being embarrassed over the type of car we drive, we became embarrassed over how often we take that luxury for granted? What if, instead of being embarrassed because our house is too small, we became embarrassed over the amount of unused space within it? What if, instead of being embarrassed over the quality and quantity of our possessions, we became embarrassed over how much money we have spent on our own selfish pursuits? What if excess became the embarrassment? And responsible living that championed generosity became the norm?" Call me old school, but you'll find me carrying around a real camera in 2015 or not taking them at all #bepresent (that last part, the hashtag, that's a joke)
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Jean stone
12/22/2014 07:41:44 am
well written, love you we need to spend more time with our loved ones sharing stories and goofing around its all free
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Eric Peterson
12/23/2014 09:50:07 pm
Haley-I've been deeply affected by your writing. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I'm also wrestling with how to be more present. Your resolution challenges me to a life of "being there". It's beautiful to see Gods good work in your life.
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